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Someone asked me ‘What do you mean by Spiritual Relationships?’ Here is my answer:

I am coming from the perspective that as humans we are always evolving, whether we like it or not. Consciousness evolves through experience. The most effective way to do this is through hardship, through suffering. That is why we are often attracted to people and situations which in our conscious mind we would never have chosen, but which in our unconscious mind, have something valuable to add to our awareness.

How does that look?

1. We are attracted to or find ourselves in situations of powerlessness, because the pain of being powerless forces us to dig deep and find our empowerment.
2. We suppress our own view, our own opinion, until the discomfort and disease from remaining silent, becomes so strong that we find our voice bursting out in cascades of authentic expression.
3. We fail to draw boundaries in our relationships, trying to keep the peace until we are so stepped on, that we learn to assert our boundaries.
4. We experience the bitterness and resentment of blaming others, and when that feels bad enough, we are finally ready to look at ourselves and see how we unwittingly participated in creating that situation. The agony of the victim is there to power the joy of the responsible creator.
5. We beat up and hate ourselves for having certain tendencies, until we tire of being so mean to ourselves and become gentler and accepting of those tendencies as being a natural part of our humanity.
6. We experience the agony of someone betraying us, so that we can learn to see where we betrayed ourselves and hesitate before betraying others.
7.We regard our selves, our feelings and our opinions as unimportant, until the pain of doing that hurts enough for us to begin to honour our thoughts and feelings and opinions.
8. We ignore our inner voice, our hunches , our inner wisdom and seek out the wisdom of others, until we realize that we had the answers all along, and no-one knows better than us what’s best for us.

When you begin to see your relationship to yourself, your relationship to others and your relationship to life in this way, you are indeed in the midst of spiritual relationships.

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I am about to launch a website called Spiritual Relationships. Someone asked yesterday ‘What do you mean by Spiritual Relationships?’ Here is my answer:

I am coming from the perspective that as humans we are always evolving, whether we like it or not. Consciousness evolves through experience. The most effective way to do this is through hardship, through suffering. That is why we are often attracted to people and situations which in our conscious mind we would never have chosen, but which in our unconscious mind, have something valuable to add to our awareness.

How does that look?

1. We are attracted to or find ourselves in situations of powerlessness, because the pain of being powerless forces us to dig deep and find our empowerment.
2. We suppress our own view, our own opinion, until the discomfort and disease from remaining silent, becomes so strong that we find our voice bursting out in cascades of authentic expression.
3. We fail to draw boundaries in our relationships, trying to keep the peace until we are so stepped on, that we learn to assert our boundaries.
4. We experience the bitterness and resentment of blaming others, and when that feels bad enough, we are finally ready to look at ourselves and see how we unwittingly participated in creating that situation. The agony of the victim is there to power the joy of the responsible creator.
5. We beat up and hate ourselves for having certain tendencies, until we tire of being so mean to ourselves and become gentler and accepting of those tendencies as being a natural part of our humanity.
6. We experience the agony of someone betraying us, so that we can learn to see where we betrayed ourselves and hesitate before betraying others.
7.We regard our selves, our feelings and our opinions as unimportant, until the pain of doing that hurts enough for us to begin to honour our thoughts and feelings and opinions.
8. We ignore our inner voice, our hunches , our inner wisdom and seek out the wisdom of others, until we realize that we had the answers all along, and no-one knows better than us what’s best for us.

When you begin to see your relationship to yourself, your relationship to others and your relationship to life in this way, you are indeed in the midst of spiritual relationships.

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