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Coach Beyond Borders

I must have been eight or nine. We were on holiday in Port Elizabeth ( my mom’s older sister lived there) and we were on the beach. A section had been cordoned off with rope, a big square , and round cardboard tags had been placed under the sand. Each tag, if retrieved, could be exchanged for a prize, like a whole giant sized bar of Nestle chocolate.A treasure hunt! I was so excited and when the starter gun went off, I dived into the enclosure, along with several other children, frantically searching for a tag.To my delight I found one and I continued looking for another one. That was when a young boy, perhaps a year or two older than me, approached me and asked if he could go and cash in my tag for me, while I kept on looking for another one. I readily agreed and unsuccessfully…

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Shadow Belief Unplugged

I must have been eight or nine. We were on holiday in Port Elizabeth ( my mom’s older sister lived there) and we were on the beach. A section had been cordoned off with rope, a big square , and round cardboard tags had been placed under the sand. Each tag, if retrieved, could be exchanged for a prize, like a whole giant sized bar of Nestle chocolate.A treasure hunt! I was so excited and when the starter gun went off, I dived into the enclosure, along with several other children, frantically searching for a tag.To my delight I found one and I continued looking for another one. That was when a young boy, perhaps a year or two older than me, approached me and asked if he could go and cash in my tag for me, while I kept on looking for another one. I readily agreed and unsuccessfully continued my search for another one. When it was over, to my horror, the boy was nowhere to be seen. He had disappeared with my prize!

I ran sobbing to my mother, who said to me, ‘You bloody fool. What did you think would happen?’ Now my mother was the most devoted mother on the planet, but her response made me feel absolutely terrible. Distraught. Small. Insignificant. Stupid. Naive.

What happened that day, was I formed certain unconscious beliefs about myself and the world. These are called ‘shadow beliefs’. The first one that I formed around this incident was that you are a fool to trust that others will look after your best interests just because they say so, and that when you become too greedy, you can lose everything. I made the whole thing mean that I was too timid , too naive, too foolish to look after myself’ out there’.

Well that become one of the unconscious driving forces behind my decision to become a lawyer, as well as my decision to marry someone who ‘knew how the world worked’ and appeared to have mastered it.

But shadow beliefs have a way of proving themselves and making you face those old disempowering conclusions.Nowhere to run or hide. Your life will at one stage or another, present you with evidence that those hidden beliefs are true. Through this, through the pain that that causes,you are given the choice to replace them with new, truer interpretations of those old events and new empowering beliefs.Its all up to you. Your beliefs create your reality, just as mine do .

How do you do that ? How do you replace them with new beliefs so that your reality reflects those new beliefs back to you? Come to one of our workshops if you are in the Johannesburg area and if not, email me for tele classes.

Savannah and I are holding our next workshop, entitled, Falling into Fabulous, on the weekend of 18 and 19 August.We deal specifically with shadow beliefs in this workshop.

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New Partner

I am delighted to share that I have gone into partnership with with an amazing woman called Savannah Steinberg.

Visit her website on http://www.savannahsteinberg.com.

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