Gregg Braden has identified three Universal fears:
1. Fear of not being good enough
2. Fear of Trusting and Surrendering
3. Fear of Abandonment and Separation.
Can you imagine going through your life, not allowing those fears to dictate your choices and actions? Who would you be and what would be possible ?
When you are comparing yourself and judging your worth based on how you look, your intellect, how much money you have, those around you, or any one of those external factors, you WILL see yourself as not good enough sooner or later because there are always others who are prettier, smarter, wealthier . When I look at myself today and compare myself to myself thirty years ago, on an external rating scale, I am not good enough. I am not nearly as good looking and my ability to retain and process information not nearly as astute. And yet, as I connect with the woman I am today, I have immense value. I have gained so much wisdom , so much experience, my heart, which was previously shut down is filled with so much compassion and love. I feel like I provide shade to many people with the work I do and love. And no, I don’t earn as much as I would have had I continued as a lawyer, but how can I exchange that for knowing I have facilitated a profound shift in consciousness in those I have coached, not to mention the ripple effects down the ages on those I cannot see ?
I have come such a long way on trust and surrender but I do still have a long path way to travel. But what a comfort to know that I am on this path, day by day building my trust, my courage, my ability to roll with the punches and dig deep and become a warrior for all things good. I can now see my role in creating my experience and I can tap into a deep and wide centre where my true power lies . I am excited about my life again.. I feel the excitement of an eighteen year old again!
I have been abandoned. When my parents died, I had to face life without that cushion of unconditional love. I have been abandoned in relationships , as I have abandoned others. I have been separated from so many close friends and family who now live in other countries. But I am not left with a deep wound where they left. Just gentle love for and understanding of the processes of life.
Ultimately as I say now and have said so often before, it all comes down to your relationship with yourself, but not your ego self. Your inner self. The real you. The you that exists behind the chatter of your negative internal chatter. The part of you that holds the big picture for your life. The part of you that knows on a very deep level the true value of your life, that everyone is equally valuable and that everyone has a unique role to play. The truth that we are as human beings always evolving in consciousness whether we like it or not, whether the way in which it happens fits snugly into our ego ideal or not. Life is about getting familiar with the part of us that houses our love and compassion and light. You can only do that, by making peace with the part of you that houses your hatred and envy and your fear and your need to be superior. Everything in my life up to this point, has pointed me in this direction.
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